Food Porn and Crabs in a Barrel

 

 

4girlsSept. 15,  1963

 Never Ever Forget

 

 

 

 

I got a PM asking me how I felt about getting trash talked by the same old folks on the game and I just said, eh whatever.  I’m sure they are unhappy that not everyone thinks they’re so awesome and like clever for discussing physically harming another player.   A player who’d later be the subject along with another player of players joking about lynching and killing them both in some “double homicide”.  That screenshot has served as a valuable tool in how NOT to run a Chat so I guess that incident’s served some useful purpose because no one on the game learned from it.  It sure attracted a lot of attention from people who’ve seen it and later learned that the parties involved received no timeouts.  Being able to provide examples of Chat moderation when it works and when it doesn’t does seem to provide a useful and positive purpose even when there’s nothing positive about that screen shot…except that only four out of 16 players in Chat participated in the banter.

The admins most especially. If you truly have a player causing so many problems, you deal with it and if necessary ban them, end of story.  Banning’s not fun but it’s not supposed to be! You don’t sit around and “like” people discussing harming them. Not on FB at least in front of an audience including one or in this case, more who thought it was as one of those players might put it, “F”ed up.  That’ll be the one most important lesson I walk away from them is that I thought for a long time the admins cared about bullying and trashing on their site, I hadn’t realized that not only didn’t they care, one of them participated in it!   The truth is, that doesn’t bode well for any business-focused Web site as I think will become clear further the road, but you can always wish folks the best of luck.  Kind of sad though.  Yet it’s nice to at least learn from that enough to be a good moderator and who knows maybe an admin some day and not do things that way.

It was very disappointing but it helped me a lot to figure out that I really just got caught in a pit of vipers and it just took me a few years to figure it out.  I have to say though I had a lot of fun with the many other folks who don’t behave that way so it wasn’t a total waste of time.

So no being trashed by those folks doesn’t really make me upset.  Its like getting upset at a shark for being a carnivore. It’s just who they are and how they represent. Sad, to be hardwired with such bitterness and venom, but it is what it is and it’s not a whole lot of fun to watch.

They’re like…

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When there’s no one there to bully or trash talk they bring each other done and if only some of the few that defend them knew what they were saying about them when they weren’t around…well you know the saying about those who trash talk. If you play around with them when they’re doing it to someone else, figure that once you leave the room or your back is turned then yep, you’re next.   It wasn’t pleasant to watch. Being them must be even less pleasant.

Now if there were some garlic popcorn…but no….I don’t even feel like going there. It’s just so good to be away from an environment where people are too into talking about beating people up, cutting people up and generally bashing on folks who aren’t nearly as perfect as they think they are.

God, it must be so difficult to have to put up with imperfect people, you know those who use words too many times, or don’t like jokes about lynching…I mean Christmas trees and such.  What a burden for these poor folks. No wonder they have to joke about killing lesser people and beating up people and insisting over and over that they really mean it.

Eh, after reading what happened to one player last week by some real perfect folks and who knows maybe they held a FB hate fest first, I’m really, really glad not to have to sit and watch it anymore.  Maybe it’s time for some popcorn.

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But I’m sure after they ran over someone they discussed it on FB first.   I was going to watch boxing but some dude named Maurice is tweeting about it (and he’s awesome with baseball too) so I’m watching Liam Neeson in one of the Taken moves (1 or 2 or straight to cable) instead.  With leftover popcorn and wine.  While reading blow by blow (hah!) tweets by Maurice and some tweeter named Kaore from L.A. explaining why he’s not watching boxing.

I try to live by the motto below but admittedly I don’t always succeed at it. But after watching four years of so called “cool” people spend a lot of their time putting other people down to feel better about themselves…I think most of the people watching would feel more motivated to try a little harder.

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Spent the day having the carpet ripped out of a bedroom for some new flooring!  Supervised vendors cutting down about $7,000 worth of trees that we approved last meeting.

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Entered the next round of horses with none injured this week.  Dealing with forum traffic and combining threads (and oops, did I accidentally delete a couple….shhh).  I did find the accidentally deleted thread and combined five threads started on “Brick vs Niz” which I’m not sure I even know what that means.

So they all managed to get consolidated into threads, the pro and con camps for both “‘shipping” and all is peaceful. People are generally just passionate about their opinions on Brick, Niz, Quiz, or Patrina.

Okay whatever. Put the nerf sticks down. Or go tweet Shark Boy about it and maybe ask him if Stealth Couple’s ever going on a date.

Though it’s a bit harder to turn a forum into a cess pool than a Chat.    Ooops, just picked up a spam bot poster!  Fun….just got to ban and delete. 🙂

I did my first column. Drew Friday….yay that was fun! 

Peanut butter fudge, this is so yummy!  No I didn’t make it, a friend did use this recipe. Fudge and I…not in this lifetime. 

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More Yummy food…..

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This is so true….

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Afghan food porn, lamb and rice sent by a cousin from an airbase in Afghanistan.

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My niece getting crafty before getting her driver’s permit at S.V. DMV.  

She’s very talented with her crafts and sells them in exhibitions all over So. Cal. She’s also into graphic arts as well.  Hey, I got a D in needle craft in high school so more power to anyone who can do it.

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Then I guess it’s off to the war veteran’s  memorial…

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And Preachers of L.A. has been tweeting me as it gets ready to debut in Oxygen.  I might check it out to see what Pastor Ron (Gibson) says.

I met him in late 1998 when the city came to near riots over the controversial police shooting of a Black woman passed out inside her car. I thought him brash and impulsive but a brilliant orator and someone that many people, some pushed beyond rage could relate to. He had his moments splashing the state attorney general when he put down his glass unhappy with something he’d said but he was calm in crises too and goodness knows there were plenty of those taking place.

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whitecar

Dec. 28, 1998

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